October 7, 2016

Five Years Later...

Today is the FIFTH wedding anniversary for my husband and me. We have finally surpassed the number of years we dated (four, in case you were wondering).

To be honest, I had no plans to post. But, I realized, I would skip my personal tradition of reflection if I didn't write this. I love looking back at the old posts and seeing what I thought and what I learned from my marriage (year four, year three, year two, year one). While today's post may not apply to you or even be of interest, I hope you find some entertainment or some wisdom instead.

  1. We care more about each other than ever before. Ugh. I know. Sappy. BUT, give me a chance to explain. Obviously, having a child changes dynamics between us. There's another human being that supersedes us in a lot of ways. But, the result of having a child means we have to take extra care about other things. We are more mindful when we speak to each other. We are more attentive to the conversations. We care more about each other's personal well-being (not just for the sake of taking care of our rambunctious toddler, but for our own mental health and identity). We didn't specifically plan this, but it happened organically as we discovered what we needed from each other. Time is precious. We only have so much of it (with each other) at the end of the day. So we have to treat our time together as two with as much care as other parts of our day when we're together as three.

  2.  We're "getting old," but we're OK with that. Obviously, we have a (young) kid so we already skip a lot of late nights out with friends or parties or other things that we used to do.

    (Although, this lifestyle really isn't too far from our pre-parenthood reality).

    BUT, now, we're tired by 8pm, we would rather watch a re-run of The Big Bang Theory than pay attention to a movie we haven't seen, and our bodies are feeling the affects of getting older ("What do you mean we can't/shouldn't eat that entire piece of cheesecake?," "My hip hurts," "My allergies are slowly killing me.") But, hey, we're getting older together so we can ache together. And laugh about it, together.

  3. We still remind each other to do a lot of the same things. After living together for several years, and being together for almost a decade (!!!), you'd think certain things wouldn't need to be asked. But, you'd be wrong. At least for us. Sometimes, the full bag of garbage needs a friendly reminder to be taken out. Sometimes, a request to make the bed better needs to be said. And sometimes, even when we know the result of what will happen, we ask each other what we want for dinner where we know he'll say "what do you want?" and I'll say, "I dunno, what do you feel like?" and we'll stare at each other at how many times this same conversation has been had.

  4. Savor the date nights. Because, as a group of three, without close family nearby, and a working family budget (where a babysitter may not be a financial option ALL the time), date nights are hard to come by. We haven't gone on as many date nights as we used to. In fact, I can probably count them on one hand. And as I perused my photos to see what photo of "just the two of us" I could use, I discovered there were hardly any in the recent months. So, we clearly need to work on this one in the upcoming year. But, really, they are treasured nights.

  5. Laughter has always been, is, and will always be the best medicine. Life gets complicated whether you're married or not. But, being together for as long as we have means we have discovered a few things that help us get through some rough(er) waters. This past year, we navigated through some tricky times that we had to face together as a family unit (a huge factor as to the inactivity on this little ol' blog). But, after all was said and done, we persevered. We grew stronger and we appreciated what we had as a family even more than before. And having a good laugh about things certainly quells any negativity.

As I always say, my life is made so much more special with this man beside me. We have grown so much since we first met, as individuals and as a couple. I'm incredibly grateful for this time together. 

Happy Anniversary to the most positive, goofiest, humblest, most hard-working man I married.

September 8, 2016


 Suede Jacket: similar, T-shirt: Target, Skirt: H&M (similar), Sneakers: Converse, Sunglasses: Karen Walker

You guys, I'm a slacker (for lack of a better term).

I had dreams for this blog of mine. (Naturally.)

But, as life would have it I focused my attention elsewhere - despite my desire to post. I became "one of those" bloggers. You know the kind. The sporadic, apologetic, blogger who means well, but ends up falling off the radar.

Well, I won't say that I am going to "get back at it" since my life is at a transition point. I'm actually getting into another "new normal." I'm becoming a "working mom" rather than an exclusive "stay at home mom." Big news for my little world. 

I am going to figure out what all of this means. Yea, pretty cliché, but that's where I'm at nowadays.

Conveniently, my post coincides with the change from summer to fall. I realize we aren't officially in the fall season, but most of us can agree that once Labor Day passes we are in fall, right? My friend helped me feel better about my transition when she reminded me how all of life's changes are like seasons. We just transition from one season to another.

So, I have fears. I have doubts. But, I have excitement, too.

In the meantime, here's a fun, flirty, but simple look. Thanks to Stephanie Marilee Tucker for these shots from (what feels like) long ago days. But, the vibe is spot on with this post.

May 19, 2016

Mama Moments

When my sweet Baby B first arrived, the most challenging moments seemed like every moment. I was learning how to take care of a newborn, which included diaper changes, nursing, putting clothes on a tiny person and learning how to function with limited hours of sleep. Every. Single. Thing. Was. New. 

No matter how much I thought I was prepared, there was nothing like the "real thing."

But, as so often happens, I felt more confident and grew into a stronger person as time ticked on. 

Still, one of the biggest hurdles I faced during my baby's first year was finding time to take care of myself. Suddenly, leaving for just an hour or two wasn't as simple as it sounded. I was (and still am) a nursing mother so, quite literally, my baby relies on me as a food supply. 

Just like the baby had to learn to nurse, he also had to learn to take a bottle while I was gone. I didn't realize that the baby had a preference for bottles. And that preference makes the idea of spending time away that much more challenging.

Thankfully, bottles like Munchkin's LATCH mimics the feel of a baby nursing so moms (like me) looking to spend some quality me time don't have to worry as much while we're gone.

The bottle eases the transition from breast to bottle, creating a better latch and pumps milk like the breast. The blue valve on the bottom even helps reduce the symptoms of colic, which is one of those "baby things" where we don't realize how bad "bad" really is. Until it happens.

And since we're being real here, as any nursing mother knows, nursing pads are a MUST. So Munchkin LATCH didn't leave any mama behind with these pads. I have never had to worry about an embarrassing situation while out and about. They are thinner than other nursing pads I've tried, which really make more of a difference than I could ever know. 

So while I had the fortune to try Munchkin LATCH with surprisingly good results, the ultimate goal has always been to make sure that baby and mama are BOTH happy and going to be OK. 

It's OK to take time out for yourself to do things for yourself. 

It's OK to feel selfish.

It's OK to feel like you need a break from being a mother.

And for me, that time is (always) well spent with my BFF, coffee, and a good book. 

I can't wait for my next date with the two of them. Knowing the baby boy will be well taken care of is half the battle.

Thanks to Munchkin for partnering on this post. As always, all thoughts and opinions are my own.

May 18, 2016

Nitty Gritty

When it comes down to basics, this is it. I've been in a major minimalist mood for the past year or so. Basically since my baby boy was born. If you knew me before, I was all about the special accessories. But, there's nothing practical about statement necklaces, silky anything or tripping over strappy heels. At least not when you're around a grab-anything-put-it-my-mouth kiddo all day. (I'm sure this will change once the kiddo is less interested in his mommy and I'll miss this time of my life.)

The funny thing is, I used to think I would never change my style. But, perhaps the style evolution is about the evolution of my life and as a result, I'm adapting my style towards my new life. I'm more aware of my sense of self and my body (even though that's changing too since I'm nursing and still feeling a bit "soft" from not working out as much as before) and trying trends that really work with my wardrobe, rather than forcing trends to fit my wardrobe.

Don't get me wrong, I still love the eclectic vibe. But, I'm more selective about what I do. I'm willing to invest in long term pieces rather than paying for fast purchases that I see in the stores as I walk by. Hence, that whole capsule thing I talked about - we'll get there I'm sure.

The great thing is I have this blog to see my evolution. Even cringe at them. And continue to grow and change. 

May 16, 2016

Weekend Wrapup

"My weekend felt way too long," said no one ever.

While my weekends (and hell, my weeks for that matter) are not earth shattering exciting, they are filled with family and friends that make my world go round.

I have spent many a thought wondering why my life didn't look like another's and I always end up at the same place - realizing how ungrateful I sounded and how my life is (actually) quite wonderful in its own way.

I spent this past weekend:

  • doing laundry
  • working out
  • running errands
  • meeting friends
  • grabbing groceries
  • eating takeout
  • cleaning and tidying up
  • not cleaning and tidying up 
  • watching Snapchats for way too long than I care to admit
  • surfing the web

I mean...what more can I ask for, right?

I've walked by this block SO many times, but just recently appreciated its beauty 

So I "stole" this shot from my own Snapchat, but really...there's something so charming about this view, don't you think? 

I never tire of a coffee shot - especially when it shows off a Le Creuset mug and saucer. 

Who doesn't want a photo of their dessert? 

Does this even need a caption?


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