October 7, 2015

Four Years Later...

photo by JWL Photography

Today, I'm taking a departure from my usual Wednesday Whim posts to write a post in honor of my wedding anniversary with this guy.

It's crazy to realize that we celebrate our anniversary as parents this year (I was secretly pregnant this time last year!). We really didn't have a specific timeline of when we thought we would have a child. We just figured it would happen within the first few years (thankfully, it did!).

Frankly, I'm glad we got to spend the first few years where it was "just us." This wasn't because we got to do a lot of traveling (work and life have been particularly busy) or have a crazy social life, but it was a time where we were simply lying around together, watching movies, having friends over and enjoying each other's company that I am glad we experienced. The simple things.

We're five months into this joint parenting experience and things have changed pretty fast. New routines. New habits. New language. Learning to be a parent has been the most challenging journey (for me especially), but I am stronger because I have my guy's support. I value the extra hands on duty from him and appreciate how happy he is to be a father.

When it was just him and me, we never wanted to take each other for granted. Well, with a baby on board, whatever sort of expectations we had for each other have only accelerated. Year one, year two and year three taught us plenty as we settled into marital life as a couple, but year four is teaching us to be an expanded family. As we continue to mature together, here are some things we feel has helped us so far...

  1. Be mindful.
    Kinda goes without saying BUT, as baby takes precedence in our lives, we still need to respect each other's boundaries. He needs time for himself. I need time for myself. And we need time to be together. We give each other breaks from all things baby, we sneak in solo time when baby sleeps and we say "have fun" when one of us leaves to hang out with a friend. We are still individuals after all. Being a father and a mother are labels that help define us, but don't make us.

  2. Be especially loving.
    We never leave each other's company without saying "I love you," but this is especially meaningful nowadays. As sweet, charming and adorable as baby B is to us, he can be quite a handful, too. The first months with him was a big whirlwind and things didn't go as planned with a lot of things we expected (they never do with baby, do they?). Remembering how much we care about each other really helped get us through whatever difficulties we faced together. Emphasizing how much we valued each other as much as we valued our baby kept us strong.

  3. Be kind.
    Please and thank you have never gone farther.

  4. Be hungry.
    Literally and figuratively.

    It seems food is always on the agenda. As a couple, we dined out every week. But, with baby, we cut way back. We've always cooked meals at home, but we have been particularly creative with baby. Thanks to cookbooks (I vouch for America's Test Kitchen and The Smitten Kitchen), I have expanded my usual repertoire of recipes. I've even started to make my own baby food with my Beaba (more on that later!). While we haven't quite gotten to meal planning (yet), we are appreciating the art of elevating home cooking AND planning when to eat between all baby moments. (OK...and we indulge in take out, too. We are human and get lazy.)

    As cliche as it sounds, we are also constantly hungry for knowledge.There's much to learn, and unlearn, during this growing phase. I'm learning to be less guarded, seek help when I need it and identifying what things will help my tiny tot grow. But, I'm also unlearning my desire to plan/control everything (since babies won't let you do that anyway). I know everything will eventually balance out, but hey, I'm a new mom and I'm type-A learning to incorporate some type-B personality.

  5. Be here. Now.
    I think once you become a parent, you wonder about the future - A LOT. Even more than you thought you did for yourself. While this can become obsessive (guilty!), the husband and I have also appreciated the moments we have now. Baby B changes everyday and before we know it, he won't be baby B anymore. He'll be toddler B, preteen B, teenage B and then...adult B. Everyone says how quickly time flies with children. So we want to cherish everything.

Life with each other has clearly changed. There's still lots to learn as we grow and adapt, but I'm so appreciative that we are growing stronger and...dare I say it?...more in love.

Happy, happy anniversary to my goofball and nerdy husband. Life wouldn't be the same without you. And what a sad world that would be. Thank you for making life better, funnier and more exciting.


  1. Awww, so sweet and everything is so true, happy, happy anniversary!

  2. How sweet! It is so important to cherish the moments together. People always ask us if we want another baby and we've gotten so used to being the 3 Musketeers that I don't want that dynamic to change. It's funny how you a person grows by themselves and with others once there is a baby in the mix. Happy Anniversary! <3


  3. Happy Anniversary!

    Really love that last photo and your sentiments.


  4. Your posts are always so well-written :) I absolutely loved this. It's so easy to get stuck in a routine and take each other for granted, but that's when marriages usually start going downhill. You guys are a lovely couple! Thank you for sharing.

  5. Congratulations! You have a beautiful family!

  6. What an absolutely sweet post! Happy anniversary to you both. I always kind of wish that Patrick and I had had time for just us but he got with me when I was already well into being a mom. But sometimes I think that makes me love him even more.

  7. This is such a sweet and insightful post! The hubby and I have been married just about a year and a half, but I have found all of your points to be true. Happy anniversary!

  8. Happy Anniversary! Congrats on the milestone :) Such important tips and your little guy is precious! xo



  9. Awwwwwwww! This is the cutest thing! Talk about an adorable family! :)
    Happy anniversary!

  10. happy anniversary!!! :)

  11. Such a cute family!!! Happy weekend.


  12. What a sweet post! Happy anniversary to you both! Enjoy! :)

  13. loved reading this post! Happy anniversary, wish you all the best!

    Check out my blog if you want: www.theglamandglitter.com

    Tamara xxx

  14. Nancy,
    This is the sort of post that reminds me why I follow you, so eloguent and lovely. You have a richly deserved, beautiful family and life. I am happy for you 3! Wonderful words of wisdom!
    xx, Elle

  15. Ohh so sweet!! Happy anniversary :D

    Kisses and happy week, ChicAdicta!

  16. Such a great post and I love your writing! A huge congrats to you and your little family and I hope many more years of happiness for you all!

    Have a wonderful day // www.lifeloveandbe.com


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